As my nuptials draw closer, many people ask me if I am excited, or if I need help to plan anytime, or if I think weddings are stressful. Although I have been asked these questions a least 100 times, I could never tire of them because I know that I only have one time in my life when I can answer these questions.
But one question caught me a little off guard , " Autumn, what will your ministry be after you are married?" or " What will you be doing after you get married". This is a harder question to answer than "What will you and Travis be doing?"In the recent months I have been learning that my ministry will not be first and foremost the hospitality, or the children's ministry, or the summer interns we will be with. No, my first and foremost ministry will be Travis!
I remember a recent time when I answer " Well, I will be Travis's wife, so whatever Travis needs me to do , I will do it!!" Usually, they nod their heads,smile and move on, as if my answer wasn't quite what they were looking for. This puzzles me a little bit, because I am coming to know that as a ministry wife my ministry must be my husband first and foremost, other ministry will come second a little later. I think that some believe that all ministry wives are supposed to be doing something. That they have to lead a women's bible study, or they have to be the head of something. And for some women, it's totally and completely okay to do those things, but I think they know the secret that particular ministry comes second to their husband.
I am only 20 years old, and I am 37 days away from being married, but I know that I will gain joy and pleasure from serving my husband , weather it will be running to the store and getting a random item, or preparing the house for a weekend team, or being the intermediator communicator ( which has happened a lot in the recent weeks, which is interesting, because I don't have a phone)
Anyways, I know I have a lot to learn, but my heart is ready to learn, so if there is any wisdom, I am more than happy to listen and save it away.
-Autumn
But one question caught me a little off guard , " Autumn, what will your ministry be after you are married?" or " What will you be doing after you get married". This is a harder question to answer than "What will you and Travis be doing?"In the recent months I have been learning that my ministry will not be first and foremost the hospitality, or the children's ministry, or the summer interns we will be with. No, my first and foremost ministry will be Travis!
I remember a recent time when I answer " Well, I will be Travis's wife, so whatever Travis needs me to do , I will do it!!" Usually, they nod their heads,smile and move on, as if my answer wasn't quite what they were looking for. This puzzles me a little bit, because I am coming to know that as a ministry wife my ministry must be my husband first and foremost, other ministry will come second a little later. I think that some believe that all ministry wives are supposed to be doing something. That they have to lead a women's bible study, or they have to be the head of something. And for some women, it's totally and completely okay to do those things, but I think they know the secret that particular ministry comes second to their husband.
I am only 20 years old, and I am 37 days away from being married, but I know that I will gain joy and pleasure from serving my husband , weather it will be running to the store and getting a random item, or preparing the house for a weekend team, or being the intermediator communicator ( which has happened a lot in the recent weeks, which is interesting, because I don't have a phone)
Anyways, I know I have a lot to learn, but my heart is ready to learn, so if there is any wisdom, I am more than happy to listen and save it away.
-Autumn
